Rosamund’s story

Some days, the pain feels so intense, it’s physical.

When Michael, my husband, was diagnosed with young-onset Alzheimer’s just two weeks after his 60th birthday, the shock was overwhelming.

It felt like being slapped in the face. For me, it was the worst news imaginable. I was falling apart, but Michael stayed calm. At least now he understood why he was struggling with his thoughts and repeating himself.

As time passed, I realised how isolating caring for Michael was, especially since most activities were for much older people. It often felt like I didn’t belong.

The hardest part of being a carer isn’t just dealing with the loss you feel – it’s also managing the grief of the person you’re caring for. Some days, the pain feels so intense, it’s physical.

Michael’s condition worsened with a diagnosis of Posterior Cortical Atrophy, affecting his vision and mobility. I couldn’t leave him alone for even a second. I didn’t know where to turn until our GP told me about Crossroads Care. Initially, I was nervous about leaving Michael with someone I didn’t know, but the dementia nurse encouraged me, saying, “If you’re burnt out, who’s going to look after Michael?”

Crossroads Care has been a lifeline. Their professional, reassuring support allowed me to get out for a while, and I’m so grateful for the difference they’ve made.

Organisations like Crossroads Care provide vital support, advice and respite breaks to unpaid carers across Richmond. With your help, we can get more funding to the organisations supporting unpaid carers in our local area. See how you can help.

*Some names have been changed